First and foremost, check out our Public Photos at these Links:
20th Reunion '89 Meet-n-Greet at Lew's Grill & Bar which we took over @
http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=2031414&id=1094094218&l=2901f286eb20th Reunion '89 Family Friendly Picnic at Faulkner's Ranch with LOTS of Amenities they threw in for FREE and we got to have our picnic in the air conditioning @
http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=2031652&id=1094094218&l=b14c49eede20th Reunion '89 Adult Dance Event where we partied like it was 1989 @
http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=2031660&id=1094094218&l=5f7a835573
Now, on with the dirt, I mean, the story...
As I made my way into the city yesterday, I saw the rotating restaurant atop the Hyatt Regency Hotel. I couldn't help thinking, "Is it over? Is that it? Am I really not going to see everyone for another 5 years?"
Fortunately, for me, the majority of the Class of '89 wants and looks forward to our 25th Reunion. More '89ers are migrating to our Class Website and even some from classmates.com are finding their way homes to us. Not only is this detrimental for planning a 25th Reunion, it is necessary to keep track of '89ers and keeping us together for years to come with or without reunions.
Let me explain. There are very few things in life that mean much in the long run. The most prevalent of those are the people we know, the relationships we have, and the lives that undoubtedly change and alter our own. You've heard the question before, "Who will visit you when you're old and gray?" The answer is one of many. your children, your grandchildren, your spouse, immediate family members, extended family, or the people you shared the most important developing years of your entire life with?
Believe me, when it comes time for your life to flash before your eyes, you will remember those faces. You will relive those memories in the century of seconds you have left. Each bated breath will cling to the flutter of reverie crossing your mind. And until you've made peace with your past, you will never be content. Take it from a professional...soul searcher. I've been getting to know me for over half my life and I'm an expert anymore, but I digress.
Getting back to the subject, I had to reconnect with my past in order to heal from it. My days at Southwest High School were my finest and my worst. In both respects, I learned a lot and indeed, came out the better person for it, but at a very high cost. I did not graduate with my Class at Southwest High School in 1989. This is a fact that was not lost on everyone during the planning stages of our 20th Reunion. In fact, many of you would not have known had I not told you. I do realize that letting the proverbial cat out of the bag, so to speak, is opening myself up to criticism - but I would rather that be out in the open than held over my head like a dirty little secret {as it was treated by some}.
Yes, the rumor mill was hard at work to unseat me as the acting President of the 20th Reunion Committee. It just failed! Ha, ha! When you are true to God, true to yourself, and true to those around you, you have no fear. I told a couple of people at the Meet-n-Greet that I was just tired of hiding. I hid so much for so long while at Southwest and after I left, that I was tired of pretending to be happy and decided instead to find true happiness. Asking God's forgiveness, accepting His forgiveness, and eventually {after about 5-9 years or so} forgiving myself was the first step. I have hurt some and have been hurt by some. Realizing we are all in the same boat {as in Class}, I see that we are all only human. We all have our own misgivings and mistakes to atone for, but that's another story altogether.
My next step was to "come clean." Opening up my life, writing about my thoughts and my heart has freed me in a way nothing else ever could. I told them, "My life is an open book now, I have no secrets and that's the way I like it." I do. It suits me well.
Apparently, the real problem was that I had no business being the President of our 20th Reunion Committee because I dropped out in my Junior year at Southwest in March of 1988. Both for selfish and really stupid reasons you couldn't fathom...I have written all about this on my super personal blog, which I have been sworn not to over expose. Instead, to let those who wish to know me on that intimate a level to seek it out for themselves. If you search for something long enough, you will find it. I wanted to clear the air about this because it's up to you, Class of '89. I vowed to step down from my "Presidency" after this reunion because of the hassle and headache, however, my "Dream Team" told me I can't! So, it's up to popular demand now. What say you Class of '89? I only have this to left to say:
I have loved you and will always love you as the people I grew up with and cherish remembering. You will always be a part of me now, especially after this laborious undertaking we called our 20th Reunion. For those of you I love and remember and those of you I met for the first time and grew to love during the course of this dream come true, I love you all the same. So, those of you who don't remember me, now you know why. For those of you who did honestly remember me, I thank you. For those of you who knew this little factoid and said nothing, I thank you, too. If only to have allowed the 20th Reunion Committee to accomplish what I set out to do {single-handed if necessary}, I appreciate your silence and support.
For those of you who mastered the rumor mill and attempted to sabotage the entire reunion, shame on you, but know that you are in my prayers. It's up to you to heal yourselves, no one can help you except God. Not me, nor anyone else in our class or in your lives can help heal your wounds except you. Each one of you has to decide to and accept change in yourselves. I wish you His Love, acceptance, and forgiveness of self. Believe me, forgiving yourself IS the hardest part.
The only disappointing aspect of the entire reunion weekend were those of you who hung onto your old cliques, and you know who you are...hell, we all do! It was laughable, disrespectful, and immature. To the rest of the Class, I congratulate you on becoming well-rounded, open-minded, respectable citizens, and new found friends. For being grown ups in a world that has no tolerance or patience. You have overcome the boundaries of race, sex, and discrimination in your own Class. That is saying a Lot for public school educated individuals! :) Myself included. GAT classes or no.
My eyes tear at the thought, the pictures, and the memories of our '89 class members who embraced one another as long lost friends. For those who photographed each other with people you KNOW you didn't hang out with in high school, I commend you! I can't tell you how happy it made me to see social lines crossed if not diminished entirely. It was ALL Worthwhile to see the love, the respect, and support the Class of '89 has for its members. We have come far, my friends. We have lived, loved, and conquered. I can't tell you how proud THAT makes me. That is the ONLY sliver of pride I felt the entire time. Otherwise, it was an entire Class effort and hats off to you, Southwest High School Class of 1989.
I wish you all the love, all the joy, and all the happiness your heart can hold. Most of all, I wish that your dreams come true the way YOU made Mine come true on August 14th and 15th, 2009. Thank you, all.
May God's Blessings Rain Upon You Forever,
Elisa Mendoza (Gilliland)
President, 20th Reunion Committee
-emg